Hey guys, welcome back to my blog :)
Today I felt compelled to write a blog on the reasons why I love my boyfriend and why I'm in the best relationship of my life, and to be honest guys, I was going to make this 5 reasons, but it morphed into 11 so yeah, that happened.
I'm not exactly sure how I felt compelled to write this considering it was a rough day for the both of us, but I felt like I wanted to get this out in writing and who better to share this with than you guys who also mean so much to me. It might also have something to do with today (April 9th) being our 7-month anniversary but that’s just a coincidence ;)
1. We fight, but it's OK.
Fighting is a normal part of a relationship I believe, because two people can't always agree on everything! I was actually shocked because all throughout our friendship and at the start of our relationship, we never fought or had a single disagreement! But when we do fight, it's because we love each other and want each other to be happy. Our fights make our relationship better in the end and even though it's not fun, it helps us grow together and learn more about each other.
2. We're independent, but still rely on each other
We each have our own hobbies (aka, mine beauty blogging and his, sports), so we each have our own lives sort of. We have most of the same friends but we still have time to do our own thing. That may be due to the fact that we're going to be long distance for another month or so before we move in with each other, but hey, it's still something! And whenever there is an issue, no matter how hard or difficult it is, I never think twice to go to him first.
3. He supports me unconditionally, and I attempt to do the same!
I'm not under some fantasy spell thinking my beauty blog is going to pay all our bills asap, which makes it difficult sometimes to keep a good head on my shoulders about this. I want to pursue my blog and he believes in me probably more than I do! Which makes putting as much effort into it as possible all worth it, and easy knowing I have the best man in the world to fall back on.
He'll have to comment on if I support him as much as he would like but I try to do my best ;)
4. We make the most out of every minute together
We've technically been long distance for all 7 months of our relationship (at one point being 45 minutes, then 4 hours, now a 32 hour non stop drive/5 hour plane ride away), which has forced us to appreciate all the time we have with each other. When I’m with him, I’m with him and not anyone else. Not my phone, not my Instagram, not my friends, or work, just him, and he the same.
5. We’re crazy connected. Like crazy
There have been countless times I’ve picked up the phone to text him and he would text me at that moment, or times we’ve thought the same thing to each other over the phone, just crazy stuff like that. And unfortunately, there have been moments where we share each others pain and both wake up in a terrible mood, or both have bad days. There is definitely some sort of energy that’s unbreakable between us that I’ve never felt before, which is crazy in itself because I never believed it be possible!
6. He puts up with my crazy, even on shark week!
Dear lord… my CRAZY! I will 100% admit that I am the worst human being on the planet when that time of the month rolls around, and Kareem gets the worst of it. I complain, I get hungry for weird things, I ache all over, call myself fat, I start fights with him that literally are about nothing, everything under the sun, but Kareem has never ONCE complained. I feel awful because I look back and each time say to myself (I’ll do better next month), but it never happens.
And even when it’s not that time of the month, I know I don’t make sense. I can be pretty impatient at times (which I'm definitely working on), but his patience with me is unbelievable. He still is firm in what he knows to be true and what he wants in our relationship as well, which makes me angry sometimes, but more times than not, he is right and I am wrong, which is hard for me to admit.
*let me just take this time to say thank you Kareem. Just thank you.
7. I feel completely comfortable around him
I’ve had issues in the past opening up about myself, just because I’m not one to feel vulnerable to anyone. But with Kareem, I never have had one issue telling him how I feel or anything about me. He knows everything about me, good and bad, and I was never afraid to say a thing. He is truly the sweetest guy ever so that may have helped, but he is also the most trust worthy, compassionate and least judgmental person I know which truly amazes me every day.
8. We’re best friends
It definitely helped that we were best friends first. We got to know each other without all the pressure to date. He was in a relationship and I was dating when we became friends but once we both were single and got to know each other further, it only made sense for us to date. We hang out and do things that friends do while also finding time for us as a couple, which keeps things balanced in our lives and helps us remember why we started dating in the first place.
And he does my makeup sometimes too like come on, that's what best friends do ;)
9. Our relationship is easy, until it gets hard
This may be more difficult to wrap your head around, but it is easy to be in a relationship together. We just work, it’s easy to be around each other and it’s easy to tell each other everything. However, when our relationship gets tough, it gets that much more harder to have.
Whenever I do something to make him upset or hurt our relationship, it makes me feel terrible. I take the hard times much more harder than I should, but deep down, I know it’s because I love our relationship so much and never want to see it fail.
Is he the perfect man? In my mind sometimes, yes! But in reality, he’s not. Am I the perfect girlfriend? In my mind, no, but in reality, HELL NO! I am by no means saying he’s a saint, but two people in a relationship together takes WORK, which means we won’t always be perfect. I take the tough times harder because I cherish our relationship, and if I brushed off every big issue we had, it shows to me that I don’t care as much. We’re both invested in this relationship and want to see it to the end, which lets me know the tough times are worth it.
^^^is this something I need to work on? Yes. For sure.
10. He makes me want to be a better person
Whenever I give him a complement he always says he can do better (which annoys the hell out of me like just take the complement please!) but it shows to how true his work ethic and pure his character is. I look at him and see the greatest man on the planet (yes guys, better than Cam Newton!) and it makes me want to be that much better.
He was raised to “always do the right thing”, which these days is so difficult with everyone trying to find any edge to get ahead of someone else, but he can walk into a room and instantly gain the trust of everyone around him just by being a genuine person. He is the kind of person you say “man, I wish I was more like them”, which makes me want to be just as good.
11. I don't want to see my life without him
It’s as simple as that. I can’t imagine a life without Kareem. I see every flaw in him and think it is amazing. I deal with every annoying little thing he does like chew 15 pieces of gum a day, wears crocs as house shoes and sends me a hundred weird memes a day all while constantly losing his chill, but I STILL can’t imagine what my life would be like without him.
Am I tearing up while writing this? Of course because he’s kinda mad at me right now but also because I love him so much, and am truly excited to see where our relationship takes us.
Am I being kinda braggy in this post? Yes, but hey, I believe everyone deserves to find true love like I have, and if your man/woman isn’t treating you as well as you should, there’s no need to waste your time.
Find someone who will truly give you everything you want and more, because once you do, there won’t be a day that goes by that you aren’t happy, because even in the toughest times and fights with your partner, you will still have that unconditional love to rely on.