You are worthy.
You are strong.
You are LOVED.
I just wanted to come on here and give you guys a little push to keep going. This past week, we lost two incredibly inspiring and amazing people, Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain.
Both of these extraordinarily inspiring people were battling depression.
This opened eyes for a lot of people that depression does not discriminate. It doesn't matter how much money you have, how cool your job is, how many accomplishments you've made; you can still suffer from depression, no matter what your circumstances are.
I myself have suffered from depression for the past 5 years in my life and thankfully, due to the help of my amazing friends, family, and many, MANY therapists, I am in an amazing place in my life, am no longer am suffering and haven't been better!
I one day want to talk about my story to you guys, but I'm not yet in a place to comfortably speak about my situation. However, I do want to remind you all that you don't have to suffer in silence. I hope these next few tips give you a bit of encouragement if you are going through tough times.
Being Strong Means Admitting When You Need Help
This is one of the most important things. You need to seek help if you are either suffering from depression, or feel like you are going through a tough time.
It's not a bad thing. You will not be judged. You will not be taken away from your job, family, friends, none of that.
It will be worth it.
There is nothing more powerful than having someone in your corner to help you through this crazy thing we call life. If you are not quite confident to reach out to a professional or feel you are not in a place financially to do so, reach out to a friend you trust instead. Talk with them and open up about how you are feeling. There's nothing to be ashamed about.
If you're not comfortable doing that, there is tons of online support. I actually found my current life coach through Youtube if I'm being honest. There are people who want to help, you just have to seek it.
*information on free hotlines are down below
Don't Compare Your Situation
Depression runs on a spectrum. No two situations are the same and there are multiple types of depression. You may say to yourself "I don't have suicidal thoughts, so I'm not really suffering" or something else along the lines of trying to justify your feelings.
Your situation is unique. Treat it as such. Depression can range from being in a state of sadness to debilitating pain. I had the worst spiral of depression when LITERALLY everything in my life was perfect, but I was still suffering. Depression knows no boundaries, and comparing your situation to other factors or stereotypes only makes things worse.
Avoid "I should's" and "I shouldn'ts"
One of the most dangerous thoughts I experienced when it came to addressing my depression was saying things to myself like:
"My life is great! I shouldn't be feeling like this."
"I should go see someone, but I can't afford it."
"I shouldn't talk about my problems... it'll make people uncomfortable and judge me."
"I should just suck it up and get through it..."
This type of mindset keeps you in a constant state of depression and only furthers your situation, because you think you can ignore it and it will go away!
It won't. Like I mentioned before, I felt like I had no reason to be depressed because my life was amazing. That very mindset sent me down a spiral even worse than it would've been if I had just shifted my mindset from "I have no reason to be depressed" to "I have an amazing life, but I'm struggling with depression. I don't want to feel like this anymore. Let me fix this."
If you need someone to talk to, I am here, and so are many other friends, family members and professionals who just want to help.
I've lost many amazing people in my life, opportunities and valuable time because of my depression and I don't want you to have to go through the same thing.
You don't have to suffer. You can live your life. You just have to seek help.
The world is a better place with you in it. Never forget that.
Love you all so very much <3
National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
National Hopeline Network: 1-800-784-2433
Crisis Textline: Text "HOME" to 741741